whats your story....

Today i met with a new client, this first thing she said to me was , hello i am divorced for 7 years. then she proceeded to tell me her husband cheated on her. , i know these things are not pleasant and i am not making light of these experiences .when a client first words to me  are" i am divorced ", i am depressed! i know this is a story they tell. its their identity. its a part of there life, they do not want to let go of. a badge of honor. she proceeded to let me know she was abused as a child as well. the pattern is very clear to me. she wants to know how she can be happy? why am i so miserable? why can t i find happiness? i think alot of people do not even know they are doing this to themselves...we live in a victim  base society. its socially excepted to be the victim, in fact it sells newspapers and keeps rating up on the evening news! its comfort for certain people. telling the same story and being the victim will surely rob you of your life. its almost like staying in the pain and keep reliving this awful time in your life over and over...whats the pay off? the past is the past, we can not be happy and create a future worth living if we keep living in the past. living in the past keeps us stuck....why do some people stay in there pain? fear....whats your story?www.yourangelcoach.com